THE FOCUS OF BDSM IS AS THE INITIALS INDICATE:
Domination and/or discipline
Submission and/or sadism
There is no right or wrong or how to manual.
BDSM, regardless of what can be seen as similarities, is personal and individual to the Pparticipants.
When asking 5 Ppeople what BDSM is to Tthem, Yyou are likely to get 10 answers.
Safe, sane and consensual (SSC) is one phrase used by BDSM communities to describe how Tthey live and play. SSC is a watchword for safety. Another is Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK), sometimes used as a substitute description. Though Mmany will argue which is more accurate, here, one, the other or both apply.
WHAT YOU MAY ENCOUNTER HERE IN THE BDSM SECTION
Yyou may see whippings and beatings, spankings and lashings, kisses and biting, or bondage and blade play, fire play or a tea service, water sports, or a massage, scat play or boot worship.
If Yyou find Yyou are in a room with an activity going on that Yyou want to know more about, Yyou may ask, but do so politely, and in the case of a scene in progress, please wait to speak to any of the Pparticipants until the scene is completed.
If Yyou find Yyou have entered a room where an activity is going on that Yyou do not like, please exit quietly, without disrupting the room.
Safe and sane in VT will be considered the same as it would be in reality but for the imagination that can and does take place here in VT. It is assumed that all scenes and conversations in VT are consensual. If Yyou specifically ask Ssomeone to cease a line of conversation or scene and Tthey disregard Yyour request, please copy the conversation and squelch. Contact a room Mmod with the conversation if further attention to the matter is needed. In the event that a room Oowner or Mmod is unavailable, site Mods as found on the Staff page may be located by telegraph to assist Yyou.
GENERAL SIZZLING CHAT BDSM RULES
IGNORANCE OF THE RULES IS NO EXCUSE
Room Oowners have the liberty here at Sizzling Chat of creating Ttheir room how Tthey deem fit. Yyou are adults and responsible for keeping the peace and upholding any of Yyour room rules, site rules and general BDSM site rules. Sizzling Staff are not here to act as mediators. If Yyou don't like how Yyour room is running, Yyou have the power to fix that.
Please be aware that each room has its own guidelines, rules & protocolsREAD EACH ROOMS RULES - BEFORE ENTERING.
DUALLING (one Pperson having two or more different Ccharacters at the same time anywhere in the BDSM section) is not appropriate behavior in most BDSM rooms. When brought to a room Oowner/Mmods attention may result in at least one of the Ccharacters being asked to leave. If the Pperson fails to comply with the rooms request that one Ccharacter leave, neither Ccharacters will be welcome in the room and both room and site Mmods will enforce this.
The general atmosphere of this section of Sizzling Chat is BDSM. Though BDSM means many things to many Ppeople and it can also be very individual. There are some aspects, customs and protocols that are often seen as universal to BDSM.
It is expected and implied that when entering any room here in the BDSM section that Yyou will have respect for Tthose whose behavior reflects any role within BDSM whether Yyou are or are not Oone who is practicing BDSM RT and/or VT.
RESPECT AND RESPONSIBILITY IS NOT ONLY IMPORTANT, IT IS ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY
Consider this section one where Yyou might find, scenes in progress like Yyou might at a play party or demo in reality, chatter about specific BDSM topics or the weather, very similar to those Yyou might find at a BDSM munch in reality. There maybe an intensely personal one on one conversation or interaction going on that would be similar to one Yyou might find were Yyou to peek into a couples bedroom at any given time in reality.
Dominant names are generally, but not always capitalized and likewise submissive’s names are generally but not always in lower case letters. This serves to distinguish easily between who is in what role, Dominant or submissive. It does NOT indicate less worth for those names not capped or more respect due one whose name is capped. It is just easier to tell roles and that is the extent of it. While it is commonly seen here and in many BDSM chat venues, it is not a requirement and Yyou will see many exceptions.
No matter the situation Yyou enter into, here in the BDSM section please mind Yyour manners. While courtesy is expected at all times, respect is earned. Please do not enter any room here anticipating that because Your name is capped that You will be greeted with a Sir (the exception being that rooms specific rules) and don't expect that because you are a submissive that you don't deserve the exact same level of respect. So many ways to behave, in the BDSM realm, manners are a must. Once Yyou establish relationships with Oothers in the room, lighthearted conversation will naturally flow.
In most rooms Vvisitors are welcome to observe and or learn by watching. If after reading that rooms rules and if permitted, Yyou have any questions feel free to ask them provided Yyou are not interrupting any activity. Please be warned that should Yyou not let Yyour intent to quietly observe be known when entering the room, some room Oowners/Mmods may assume Yyou are lurking and have the right to remove Yyou from the room for so doing.
If Yyou find Ssomeone is annoying after Yyou inform them Yyou no longer wish to chat and they disregard this, please use the squelch control, it is the most effective way to go about chatting without the annoyance of someone that doesn't get the message.
With regards to roles, capped or lower case, Aanyone Wwho is rude or inappropriate with Yyou should be squelched, no matter their role here.
What is NOT TOLERATED here is behaving badly, i.e. rude, disrespectful or disruptive.
SIZZLING STAFF are NOT mediators. If there is a problem in a room that needs assistance and no room Mmod is available, a site Mod or SC admin should be called for assistance. If the site Mod has no knowledge of BDSM and/or a site Mod or SC admin is not available, first ask all Pparticipants in the room to squelch the offensive chatter. Be sure Yyou keep a copy of any scripts with time stamps. Immediately email the room Oowner and SC admin with details of the problem and the copied scripts.
If a site Mod or SC admin is already in another room, please assume Tthey are there assisting Oothers and exercise patience. Again, the use of the squelch button will assist Yyou until they are able to arrive at Yyour location.
If Yyou are simply wishing to discuss a matter with a site Mod or SC admin, please have the courtesy of asking if Tthey are available. DO NOT interrupt another room to discuss any matter that does not relate to that room. Again the telegraph feature mentioned above can be used to contact site Mods and SC admin. They will be most willing either to come to Yyou or meet Yyou in a mutually convenient place.
AVATARS used should be appropriate for BDSM and comply with Site Regulations of 350 pixels in height and 500 pixels wide. Animated avatars are prohibited at Sizzling Chat. Av testing is to be done in the Av Auction House room. Please use it.
BDSM BEHAVIOR IS EXPECTED IN THIS SECTION
It is to be kept within the BDSM Section and NOT forced on other Sections of the Site where it is totally inappropriate. WWe do not welcome interference in Oour behavior by other sections of the site; they most certainly do not need BDSM in theirs.
Please feel free to visit elsewhere on the site, showing the same courtesy not only expected in BDSM, but demanded in BDSM,
by reading the rules for the room Yyou wish to visit and by removing any inappropriate tags before entering.
All Site Rules MUST be read, observed and form part hereof..
APPLICATION for a room in the BDSM SECTION should be made to SC admin (email@example.com) for consideration. More information is available on the Buy a Room page.
Be unique. A Room outline including, at the least a room name, an entrance page and room rules must be included in the application.
Once approved, payment should be made and forwarded with a list of pull downs, room design, and mod designation to the SC admin (firstname.lastname@example.org) for processing.
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This page created July 2, 2009